Prescription for a Healthy Marriage

We went back to the gym for a snack Friday night, which consisted of assorted cookies, pastries, chips and dip, coffee, hot cider, pepsi, and diet pepsi. It was yummos!

This is Brenda and Kelly T. Kelly's daughter is holding up the bunny ears. Boy! The lack of respect for parents today......;)


A group of our ladies...


A group of our girls....Hannah, Jessie, and Cassie


Elizabeth (bunny fingers girl)



LeAnna being crazy



Dana enjoying a chat with her mother, Mrs. Carolyn



Mrs. Ava, Crystay, and Tammy



Cammi...Remember the video of the boy singing I'm Going Higher? This is his momma.



Kellie R trying to hide from my camera.....HA! Keep tryin' Kellie!



April....bless her heart. Pregnant and so very tired that night. She enjoyed her time, but she was ready to lay down and get some needed maternity zzzzzz's.


Pam



The next workshop I attended was with Sherry Camperson. She is the oldest daughter of the Hutson's. She has got to be one of the SWEETEST ladies! She ADORES her family and it just radiates off of her.




This workshop was called Prescription for a Healthy Marriage. She had a handout with blanks to fill in, so I'm going to copy that. She also had an EXCELLENT tip about pumpkin pie. If you'd like to know that tip, ask me later. ;)

Sometimes conflicts in marriage are created when couples make each other unhappy by deliberately hurting one another. But most often conflicts in marriage are caused when couples fail to make each other happy simply because they are not aware of each other's vastly different needs. So, who needs what? We'll focus on the needs of the husband.

What is love? Love is the unselfish desire to meet the needs of the cherished object. Know your husband's needs and make it your goal to meet them. This is love.

Exchange the GOLDEN Rule for the PLATINUM Rule.

Instead of doing unto others as you would have them do unto you, do unto others as they would have you do unto them.

Deuteronomy 10:12,13 "And now, Israel, what doth the Lord thy God require of thee, but to FEAR the Lord thy God, to WALK in all his ways, and to LOVE him, and to SERVE the Lord thy God with all thy heart and with all thy soul, to KEEP the commandments of the Lord, and his statutes, which I command thee this day for thy good?"

RESPECT (FEAR)

While you long for family commitment, he desperately needs your admiration. You need him to be proud of his family; he needs you to be proud of him. Your husband is vulnerable to your opinions of him.

I got tickled when she said this because it is so true. Every once in a while Bruce will say something like, "I think I could be a doctor" or "I think I would be good at skydiving" or "I could be a sculptor." And I always answer back, "You can, baby!" or "You WOULD be good at that." Now, whether or not I truly believe that, he believes I believe it. And that makes him feel good to know that I have confidence in him. He knows I have a high opinion of him.

All relationships need respect and starts with it. He wants a sweet spirit from us. Respect his property and his privacy.

If he wants to talk, stop whatever it is you're doing and listen to him.

Choose to overlook his faults.

It wasn't the apple on the tree, but the pair on the ground that brought sin into the world.

"She" needs a protector. "He" needs a companion. Make him a leader by being a follower.

Recreation (WALK)

While you have a great need for conversation, your husband has a great need for you to be his recreational partner.

Learn to walk together. To play together. Find time to have fun together!

Men like their quiet time. They all have a "cave" and like to go to that "cave."

In our case, Bruce's cave is his workshop or sitting on the couch with his guitar.

Respect the cave, but he's ready for recreation, play with him.

Romance (LOVE)

While you can't do without affection, your husband cannot survive without s*e*x*u*a*l fulfillment. (I added the stars so people googling wouldn't think this was a perverted site. Thanks for that tip, Pam!) While you are attracted to his honesty and openess, your husband is drawn to your physical attractions and differences. Titus 2:4 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children." We need to taught how to love our husbands. When we say our marriage vows, we promise to obey. If we live by our vows and obey our husbands, we will love him. Show him physical affection. Be pretty for him. An attractive woman is made....not born!

Regard (SERVE)

While you need financial support, that is enough money to live comfortably: he needs peace and quiet, that is domestic support. While the home is your world, the home is his castle, his occupation being his world.
He is at work more than at home. When he comes home, he doesn't want to be bombarded with what's falling apart in the house and how the children disobeyed all day. He wants to be served. Greet him at the door with a kiss. Try homecooked meals for a change instead of frozen dinners or eating out. Men LOVE a good homecooked meal. Figure out his favorite recipes and make them for him.

Restrain (KEEP)

"Keep" is a military term, meaning the "last line of defense." While you need his protection, he needs your obedience of submission. Submission is not your punishment for being a woman; submission is your passport to happiness. View God's commandments as expressions of His love and protection, rather than restrictions to your happiness.

I remember someone saying once that submission is 1% action, 99% attitude. This is so true!

Submitting to another = for the glory of God. Learn what makes him tick and things that tick him off!

IF YOU KEEP ON DOING AFTER YOU GET MARRIED WHAT YOU DID BEFORE YOU GOT MARRIED IN ORDER TO GET MARRIED, YOU WON'T GET UNMARRIED!